Julian read a few sentences. He says he wishes that I had discussed this with him first as he is willing to do more if I just ask him to. He doesn’t see “mess” – and I know that – so is unlikely to do dusting or vacuuming or cleaning without being asked. He says he asks me if there’s anything he can do and I usually say ‘no’, which is true. And, importantly, he says he does appreciate what I do. I think women, particularly of my generation/age will understand what I said and how I feel more than men or younger people will or can.
After reading the post, my daughter rang to see if World War III had broken out in our house!
Life goes on😊
White Haired Woman 
I really think you have spoiled him a little Candy -(dare I say that;-)) Mr Davey, although far from perfect, seems to see more dirt than me. Whereas I am happy to clean out the fridge once a year (whether it needs it or not;-), Mr Davey insists on washing it all out himself almost every month and vacuums the lounge as often as it needs doing without being asked. I am obviously much more of a slob than he is. He also thinks I am dreadful at loading the dishwasher, so insists on doing it himself always and if I do do it, he rearranges everything;-) I find if you pretend you are rubbish at doing something, others are often happy to do it for you ;-))
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It’s too late for me to do that, Jane. And Julian truly doesn’t see mess. One day, about a year ago, I had just swept the kitchen floor when we sat down for lunch. After eating, there were crumbs on the table which I watched him sweep onto the floor! I did mention that and he seems to have stopped. And he says he appreciates what I do but I doubt if he thinks about how the clean t-shirts got there or why the basin doesn’t have a black ring around it!
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I don’t know what I’m doing today! I wrote a reply to you and it disappeared. Then, somehow I deleted the post (which you will already know).
You are certainly lucky to have someone who sees dirt and does something about it. Julian just doesn’t which, I suppose, is part of my problem. I think it’s too late to pretend not to be able to do something, anyway.
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